Dealing with a Lupus Depression: How do you cope?
The Five Stages of Grieving
Here are the five stages:
Some Warning Signs of Clinical Depression and Where to Get Help
If you are feeling any or all of these following signs, please talk to somebody you love and trust and/or seek medical assistance. You don’t ever have to ‘go it alone’, there are people out there who care!
- Feeling empty, hopeless, or helpless and like you can’t work your way through these emotions on your own.
- Losing interest in the things you used to enjoy or feeling like nothing seems to bring you joy anymore
- Feeling like you can’t go on anymore.
- Feeling like a failure and that nobody cares about you.
How do you combat a lupus depression? The B.G.T.Y. Theory.
What is the B.G.T.Y. Theory? It is quite simple actually. Be Good To Yourself.
Surround yourself with supportive people- If you have great family and friends around you, this can be an important network to anyone with a chronic illness. If your family or friends are far away or they ‘just don’t understand,” then try to find online or local support groups for other lupus or chronic illness sufferers, like the ones here at Molly’s Fund!
- Try to maintain a healthy lifestyle– In spite of the lupus, it is important to continue to be good to yourself, eat right, get enough rest, and exercise regularly
- Just take one day at a time- Why worry about tomorrow when all you can control is what you accomplish today? It may help calm the overwhelming feeling of worry about all you need to do and just help you get through this day.
- Try to stay active-Even though you have days that you will not feel up to moving around, try to stay active in general. Be engaged in hobbies, clubs, groups, yoga or tai chi or any other mind-body exercises. This kind of engagement can really lift your spirits and make you feel empowered over your illness.
- Keep a ‘go to’ list of things that make you feel better, like a funny movie, music you enjoy, a special walk that makes you happy, hanging out with friends. Keep that list handy for those tougher days. The mind/body connection is a very important factor in your well-being.
- Stay informed about lupus- The more you know about your medical options, the more questions you ask of your physician and other medical providers, the more empowered you will feel!
- Watch that negative self- talk. Replace it with positive self-talk. We are all guilty at times of being our own worst enemy. Unfortunately, over time, that negative talk can wreak havoc on our self-esteem. Be kind to yourself, having faith in the knowledge that you are doing the best that you can on any given day. Lupus is unpredictable and if laying low for a while ( a day, a week, a month or several) is what your body demands, then that is honoring your body and your well-being, so be kind to yourself!
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